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Why it’s okay to feel stuck, and 3 ways to get out of your rut.

It’s okay to feel stuck

It seems like the majority of people my age feel stuck in their life. Even if we are not actually stuck, we can sometimes just manifest the feeling of being in a serious rut. There have been so many times where I never thought I could get back to regular life, but I always survived. Seasonal depression is a real thing, and its something that I usually deal with, but luckily, I haven’t had to deal with it this year so far! Sometimes when we feel stuck, it is the universe telling us that we need to grow. I always see negative moments as an opportunity to grow.

Life gets in the way all of the time, and it’s okay to acknowledge those feelings. Even though you want to, you can’t be positive all of the time. Take a moment to recognize what is making you feel stuck, and look into what is causing that feeling. It’s usually something that we can overcome quite easily. Here are three ways that I get over the feeling of being stuck.

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Try creating new goals

If you feel stuck, you might just not have anything to look forward to. I talk a lot about creating goals on this blog, but they are really important! Creating new goals can give you something to work toward, and that might be a way of getting out of the rut that you’re in. These goals can relate to your personal life, professional life, or they can just be short-term goals.

I’m really into creating SMART goals simply because I can track my progress on them. If I see myself growing, or approaching the completion of a goal, I’m more likely to maintain my enthusiasm. Looking for a new job, tell yourself that you will have one in 6 months. If you are trying to grow your blog, say that you want to have 100 more on your email list in 3 months. Make it something that you can create a deadline for.

Take some time off and disconnect

Sadly, I’m not talking about things that you just can’t avoid. What I am talking about is external or internal stresses you may be experiencing. For me, I sometimes get overwhelmed by my phone. When this happens, I just turn my phone on silent or leave it in another room. It is so easy for us to be too accessible in society. Even social media can be taking a toll on our mental health. As a blogger, I’m constantly on social media. There is only so much content that I can digest in one single day, no matter how hard I try and stay in the loop.

Even if you can’t completely shut off, set aside an hour or so a day and have that time for yourself. I try and read every night before bed to avoid using my phone. Not only have I been sleeping better, but I’m absorbing valuable content instead of just scrolling through Instagram. There are a lot of days where I just feel stuck because of the internet. A wise woman once said that “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. Even if I’m not feeling great about myself, a disconnect can make a huge difference.

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If all else fails, do some cleaning and organizing

I used to hate the idea of cleaning or organizing anything. As I’ve gotten older, I find it to be incredibly therapeutic. Not only is it great for your soul, but it is also even better for your environment. We are a product of our environment, after all. Surrounding yourself with clutter can make you feel stuck in life. Eliminate whatever doesn’t bring you joy, pass on things that you aren’t using, and get rid of trash. Freeing up space in your environment can help you clear up mental space.

Cleaning can sometimes be overwhelming, so don’t be afraid to break it up into small sessions. If you just feel like cleaning your bedside table, then do that. As long as you are constantly doing something, you’ll be able to get over that feeling of being stuck.

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  1. aleshaaborady
    December 3, 2018 / 12:04 pm

    So good! I always try to make a point to have a disconnect day, I always feel refreshed the days after!

    • admin
      December 3, 2018 / 3:54 pm

      Yes! I always feel like my mind is a lot clearer!

  2. Candice
    December 3, 2018 / 12:06 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing your tips!

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    • admin
      December 3, 2018 / 3:54 pm

      You’re so welcome! I hope you enjoy it!

  3. December 4, 2018 / 3:15 pm

    Love this post, Ashley. I agree with all the three points that you highlighted. De-cluttering and cleaning are seriously very helpful. As for disconnecting, I try to do that every Sunday so that I don’t feel overwhelmed.

    • admin
      December 4, 2018 / 4:13 pm

      Thanks so much! I find it really important to disconnect!

  4. mariaaldrey87
    December 7, 2018 / 6:13 pm

    I totally agree, this is so important. You gotta get your body moving if you need to get more space in your mind to be clear and creative.

    • admin
      December 8, 2018 / 11:00 am

      Yes! It can be the hardest thing to do, but you’ll always feel better afterward!

  5. December 9, 2018 / 9:11 am

    These are such simple tips, but it seems like all would be very effective! I’ll definitely try these next time I’m in a funk. Thanks for sharing!

    • admin
      December 9, 2018 / 9:40 am

      You’re so welcome! It doesn’t take too much to get out of a funk, it just seems hard in the moment!

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