Why I ultimately quit trying to theme my life

Sometimes being honest about blogging can be difficult. Mainly because social media is to set forth the best image of our lives that we can. When I think about my blog, I do consider it a form of social media. When I first began my online journey, every article I read mentioned finding your theme. Well, after two years of consistently blogging, working in social media, the theme has finally died. So before you click out, let me explain.

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Who was I as a blogger?

That honestly should have been the first question I answered, but it was not. I was worried about how everything looked. I am definitely a visual person, but what is the point of content creation without the actual content to share? The internet was something that I have always been familiar with. Even when I was younger, I could tell you how to disassemble a computer, and then put it back together. I was a Myspace queen when it came to HTML, and I could find you any song you ever imaged on Napster. So why was the idea of creating a blog terrifying? There is one simple answer to that my friends, inferiority.

Most of the blogs that I follow are ones that I have read since they came around. I seriously felt like my prayers had been answered when some of my favorite bloggers began making Youtube videos. The biggest thing I noticed was the difference in the content that I had created versus what they had done. This is where a theme seemed necessary to be the blogger that I had always imagined.

So, what is this about a theme?

Glad you asked! Although my blog follows a theme, that is for the simple purpose of fluidity and organization. I am seriously hoping that you somewhat agree with that, and if not, let me know! I’m a fan of some constructive criticism. What I mean by a theme for my life was reflecting on social media accounts, and spilling over into my real world. I found myself almost trying to mimic my favorite creators. Not in a way of content theft, but if I saw Sophie Milner in a pair of sandals, I felt the need to rush out and get them, catch my drift? Once I really began focusing on Instagram, I noticed that most of the feeds that I love had basically set color palettes. This was a whole new world of, “What do I do now?!“.

Not going to lie to you, I tried a few different times to create a theme. Mainly because I love how it looked, but my social media was becoming not so social. I rolled out of bed one day, and started to think about what I wanted to wear. As I reached for my favorite oversized sweater, I realized I had just posted a photo of it, and I couldn’t possibly wear it again. So I found a thin knit, a fun blazer, and marched my way to class. Granted, it was 26 degrees outside, and the wind was blowing strong enough to blow me backwards. In this moment, I realized a theme was not that vital to my life.

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Does that mean that I am not a blogger?

To be straight up, this is a common question in my every day life. From my personal experience, everyone has a different definition of why they think they are a blogger. Some of them focus on amazing graphics, and lean more towards the Instagram side of the business. Others are creating killer content that is going to not only help you grow your skills, but even show you how to make money. What about me though? Is my rambling on in posts anything worth talking about? How can I keep people coming back? What makes me different? In the few times I have been approached about this, whatever you are creating and comfortable with makes you a blogger. If someone tries to tell you different, turn up Cardi B a couple of notches, and go hangout at Target.

While having a theme may work for others, if you are struggling to not only create content, but have issues with your social media, cut it out now. I definitely have colors that I like present in my photos, but that is just what I think looks best. Every image does not have to match, there doesn’t have to be one thing in common, and that has allowed me to enjoy social media again. If I want to post an image with black one day, let’s do it. If I want to post a photo that is full of flowers in light colors, you know that I am going to do it. Basically, if you aren’t enjoying what you are doing,then why are you doing it?

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What do  you think about themes? Have you found one that works for you?

ashlee

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4 Comments

  1. LL
    May 4, 2018 / 10:53 pm

    Yessssss! This post is everything. I was thinking the same thing and was very afraid to even create my blog, but after I thought about it, I was like forget that I am not doing all that theme-y type stuff. People are having to go out of their way and find any kind of photo to post just so it goes with their theme and not necessarily their content. I don’t want to be that person. I want to post what I want and not have to go out my way doing it. I can relate to this post in so many ways and I am so glad I am not alone on this. Great post.

    • admin
      May 4, 2018 / 10:57 pm

      Thanks so much! I feel like social media is just losing the social aspect, and I want to keep mine as real as possible!

  2. May 7, 2018 / 11:58 am

    Yes! The whole theme thing is so tricky. I’ve been working on a “theme” for my Instagram but… I don’t know… I like what I like. Some pictures look good with certain filters and looks while others look better with other filters and looks in my eyes, so it’s been tearing me apart (when I’m with you~~~ just kidding) trying to think of a consistent theme… As for my blog, I have the same issue with the whole niche idea. I don’t really like niches, so sometimes I worry my blog is too all over the place…

    • admin
      May 7, 2018 / 12:05 pm

      I agree, some photos look great with a filter, and some look awful! Also, they NSYNC reference is everything! Thanks so much for reading

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