You may not be where you want to be, and that is okay.

I sort of touched on this subject with my post about social media. It happens so often, that it is pretty standard. Not being where we want to be is frustrating. I feel like a lot of people are pushed towards having a goal, having a certain lifestyle, and looked down on if that may not be where you are. After years of battling myself inside and out, I have learned that I am not where I want to be, but it is okay.

I have been put under pressure my entire life. Make perfect grades, get married to someone successful, graduate top of your class, you name it! So, the real question is, what do we do? Can you please everyone? Trust me, the answer is no. There are a few steps that really lead to being happy where you are, and as much as I wish things were easier, everything takes time.

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So, how can we get over not feeling good enough?

So glad you asked! I don’t think that is every something that you can truly get over. I recently made a post about social media impacting our lives, and that answers quite a few questions. Some people focus primarily on negativity, and that is how they live their lives. We all wish we could say that we can avoid those people easily, but there is probably one in your circle of friends. I think that we are our biggest critics though.  My biggest critic is definitely me! A huge factor in not feeling “good enough” is comparing ourselves to others. We have to remember that everyone has a different life, different struggles, and different opportunities. Do I wish I was writing for an incredible magazine? Yes, but do I love my blog? Absolutely.

Where are you trying to be, honestly?

A lot of time when I talk about “not being where I want,” or “being lost”, I ask myself, where am I actually trying to go? Would I have wanted to settle for a job that I probably wouldn’t enjoy? What if I had children? Am I ready for that? If I had married an ex boyfriend, would it actually have worked out? Since I have began asking myself these questions, I have noticed a change in my attitude towards things. I have been looking forward to the future for once, and not looking back to my past mistakes. If where you want to be is a new career, take those steps!

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There is always time!

You may be sitting on your couch, and guess what, I am too! Even though you may not be a happy camper today, tomorrow holds tons of opportunities. You could get that job you have been wanting, you could finally get that break in blogging, or you could meet the love of your life in the deli section at the grocery store. Whatever is causing you to feel not good enough can change in the blink of an eye, and that is something to always remember. You probably need to make sure you are ready for changes that you are dreaming of though!

Personally, I have had a million dreams and desires. I have not seen many of those crazy ideas come to fruition, but I think it is important for us to never stop dreaming, and never give up the drive or motivation we have. I know, I sound like your mother, but momma is always right! Being where you want to be in not a race, it is a marathon.

Ups and downs are part of life!

If I said that every day of my life was the best day, I would be a liar, and no one likes that. Being where you want to be is not the only way to live, keep that in mind! I recently read a blogpost about gratitude on The Quiet Mind, where Lucie talks about how to bring gratitude into your life, and that is something I definitely forget to do. Celebrating small things each day can increase your overall happiness, and a lot of small goals will eventually create a big goal! I felt great after reading her post, and I wanted to make sure I shared it to you. It is just one of the great posts on there as well. Next time you log onto social media, do not feel bad because you are not getting engaged, having a child, or working your dream job. Everyone has their own path, and you are already on yours. Just enjoy the scenery.



12 thoughts on “You may not be where you want to be, and that is okay.”

    • Thank you, the path is really never easy, but as long as we know this and keep our head up, we can keep moving on. Thank you so much for you comment, and for reading!

  • First of all, I never see anyone who spells Stuart the same way as I do, so I am just going to appreciate that for a second. Second of all, I needed this so much right now. I am in a huge period of not being where I want to be in my life right now. And that is so hard to deal with, but I am trying everyday to just remember that life does not always turn out the way you think it will. And I remind myself that everything is going to be ok, and that everything will work out the way it is supposed to. I am just putting my intentions and positive vibes out into the universe and hoping they are returned.

    • It is super rare to see that spelling! Awesome! I am definitely in the same place in my life. I wrote this as something that I would want to hear for myself. I guess this is kind of a note to me. I think everyone feels this way at one point, but are too afraid or ashamed to admit it. As long as we all keep our heads up, we will make it! Thank you so much for your comment, and reading!

    • We all struggle girl, I deal with a ton of those on a daily basis. All we can do is look forward to the future, and make better choices than we used to. Keep your head up, I am right there with you! Thanks for reading and your comment!

  • This message is so important. When I started my blog, I was becoming so impatient to see the awesome results. But after much research I realized growing takes time! I’ve released a lot of pressure on myself, and like you said.. I’m already on my path. My goal is just to keep going!

    • Blogging is hard to get into at first, it definitely takes time. This is my second blog, and I am trying so hard to do everything that I was not doing the first time. Don’t put pressure on yourself, we will all get there soon! Thanks for your reading, and your comment!

  • This is such an important topic. Sometimes people don’t realize it when they need help and sometimes they let the down side of life get the best of them! This is a nice reminder! Thank you!

    • It is such a controversial topic, and I will never know why. Every human has a good and bad side of their life, and having a negative side is completely normal. As long as we all keep our heads up, we can make it! Thanks for reading, and thanks for your comment!

    • Thanks so much. I know that I get caught comparing my life to others, even though I know that I am on a different path. Where I am going may not be where someone else is going, and I feel like that is very important.

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