What exactly do I mean when I say Instagram skinny?
Most of my life I was actually quite thin. It wasn’t uncommon for people think I had some sort of ED, and it was often brought up in conversations with other people. About two years ago, all of that changed. I started to fill out in places that had never been considered big, and that just kind of kept going. Flash forward to now, I’m about fifty pounds heavier than I was then. While I am not shaming being Instagram skinny, as a blogger, I’m having to learn to be okay with that.
One of my biggest issues when it comes to blogging is the desire to share my outfits with everyone here, and on social media. Working in social media, I spend a lot of time looking at photos, and I realized that I was just not the same size as most of the girls that I saw. This is one of those situations where all I wanted was to be Instagram skinny. Just so you know, there is no perfect body type to do anything! It doesn’t matter how old you are, what size you are, or even who you are. If you have something to create, create it!
What finally made me stop caring
I’ve always loved fashion, and it’s always been something that I loved to experiment with. My mom is probably cringing thinking about what I used to wear. To be honest, I’m cringing thinking about it. Luckily, I was never into taking photos back then, so there is no proof! I read a lot of blogs since I work from home, and I look at a lot of Instagram accounts as well. There was one trend that I noticed in all of the photos that I really loved. You know what that was? Confidence.
We all come in different shape and sizes, so what was making me think there was something wrong with me? No joke, I seriously thought that people would make fun of me if I took outfit photos. I had to remind myself that I was actually healthier than I have ever been, and that my life was so much better than it ever has been before. Also, our bodies change as we get older. I’m actually happy that I’m not 100 pounds anymore!
Steps you can take to gain confidence
For me, there was kind of an issue in the social media accounts I was following. Not only were they so much skinnier than I could ever be, it was portraying an unrealistic lifestyle. Don’t get me wrong, we all kind of “fake it” for social media, and our lives are vastly different than how most of us portray them online. If there is anything that really kills me, it is people who don’t grasp that concept! On the other hand, it is so easy to just eliminate negativity out of your life, and if that means you need to un-follow hashtags or creators, then do that for yourself. A wise woman once said that “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”(Eleanor Roosevelt).
Another step you can take is just to realize that you’re going to change over time. Our bodies change, our minds change, and our preferences change as well. Personally, I’ve been trying to share my outfits more on Instagram, even though I’m not “Instagram skinny”. I sometimes go on rants about self-love, but this won’t be the place for that. Just know that you’re good enough. That is something I really have to remind myself of sometimes, honestly.
How do you deal with insecurities and social media?